We all want what’s best for ourselves and our loved ones, but sometimes that leads us to over thinking every single decision I have to make. It’s exhausting and absolutely pointless, but sometimes we can’t help but get stuck in a spiral of second guessing our actions. To put an end to this, I’ve been practicing these 3 ‘mantras’ that helped me kick this habit and be confident in the choices I make.
1. More than ‘gut feeling’
There are always endless options and possibilities. Although your friends, loved one or colleagues may opt for one decision, it’s important to choose the one that feels fundamentally aligned with your values. I call this ‘a good gut feeling’ choice.
However there are times when we are faced with more tough decisions, say for example work team project. At these times it’s important to learn how to synthesise the overwhelming amount incoming information we deal with on a daily basis. Mike Myatt, Chairman, N2Growth told Forbes Magazine that knowing the source of this input is key: is the information reliable or credible or just bias with conflicting agendas? This will help in assessing whether your decision is the right thing to do. “You can’t go wrong by going right” adds Myatt. Spot on, right?
2. Done is better than perfect
Sometimes the thing that holds us back from making a choice or decision is a fear of failure. What if you do X, Y or Z, and it doesn’t work out exactly as planned? Most of the time these terrible situations never eventuate! Time is of the essence in all of our lives so once you’ve made a decision, don’t ponder about the possible outcomes. Just know that you’ve made the best decision you could have in the time available, and whatever will be will be. Done is better than perfect!
3. Use hindsight
We all learn from our past experiences, and usually more from the bad ones than good ones. However, the point isn’t to beat yourself up about what happened and feel guilty. Instead just note what you’d do differently next time and move on. You’ll have plenty of opportunities to get it right so don’t dwell on the few times you might get it wrong.
What are you procrastinating about now?